School is about to start again and that means a new start for everyone. Each new school year we are given a chance to evolve — to become either ultra-popular, super-stylish, smarter, or just plain different. Whatever your goal for the new school year is, the key to achieving that goal is to be confident. We all feel stupid, hated, awkward, ugly, and geeky are some point in our lives and the ones you may find yourself looking up to are no exception. Deep down inside we share the same doubts. What separates us is how we express confidence to others.
Simply put, you are a human being and as a human being you are no different from anyone else. You have strengths and you have weaknesses. You have talents and you have faults. You have advantages and you have disadvantages. In that you are equal to everyone around you. You are just as valuable and you are just as worthwhile and you are just as important as everyone else. That is a fact of life. The only thing that stops you from thinking you are an equal to everyone else is a failure to believe these simple facts. You lack confidence in yourself and your value as a human being.
There are a number of things you can do to build your confidence. They take time to really have an effect, but if you keep at it and really believe that your attitude can be the difference, you’ll notice a miraculous change in your life. So here are some ideas to help you on your way:
- Make a big list of your strengths. List all of the things that you are good at — whether it’s major talent or just something small. Read it and update it every day.
- Accept compliments. People don’t generally compliment each other unless they really feel the other person deserves it, so if you find yourself being complimented — take it!
- Keep a daily success journal. Each day when you come home, make a list of at least five things you did well during the day. Some days that will be hard, but dig in deep and pride yourself on the little things like “I got to class on time” or “I did better on my test than expected.” Every now and then read back in your journal and look for patterns to add to your list of strengths.
- Let those “idiot moments” go. Everyone makes mistakes in their life and many times something triggers that memory of some big stupid moment that really embarassed them. Let it go. When you find that you are beating up on yourself for something that happened in the past just stop thinking about it, take a breath, and remember that the moment is over and the only way to go from here is forward.
- Don’t be afraid to fail. Failure is what helps us learn and grow. A confident person accepts failure and understands that it a necessary part of success. Apply the lessons fo failure in positive ways, don’t waste your time dwelling on your mistakes, and never quit.
- Remember that it’s all in your head. No matter how you feel about yourself, it’s all in your head. If you want to be more confident, tell yourself plain and simple that is how you are going to be. Your mind is a powerful machine that can change reality with the simple power of belief. Believe in yourself and others will believe in you.